Healing & Forgiveness: The Power of Letting Go

Forgiveness is tricky. It feels like an impossible feat when we're hurting—an unfair surrender to those who wronged us. But something shifts when we step into healing. We begin to see people differently, not through the lens of past wounds but through the clarity of emotional freedom. It's not that the pain disappears or we excuse harmful and often downright disrespectful behaviour, but we start recognizing that many people often act from a place of unresolved hurt.

Seeing Through a Healed Lens

When you're stuck in pain, every slight, betrayal or act of manipulation feels deeply personal. It lingers in your mind, replaying in endless loops of "what ifs" and "if onlys," making you question your worth and reinforcing the belief that you are undeserving of love, respect, or kindness. This cycle of over-analysis isn't just exhausting—it becomes a filter through which you see the world, distorting reality and keeping you trapped in a loop of self-doubt and mistrust.

But healing? It changes everything! When you begin to heal, you stop viewing others' actions as direct reflections of your worth. Instead, you recognize them for what they often are—projections of someone else's wounds, fears, or unresolved struggles. You begin to understand that the harsh words spoken in anger, the cold shoulder, and the manipulation are more about the person delivering them than about you. This shift in perspective is profound.

When you heal, you'll walk lighter, love deeper, and understand that you are whole, no matter who failed to see it

Seeing through a healed lens allows you to approach life with clarity, empathy and compassion. You no longer seek hidden meanings in every interaction or take offence at every misstep. You can separate yourself from the emotions and actions of others, understanding that their behaviour reflects their journey, not a measure of your value. Healing teaches you boundaries—not as walls to shut people out, but as doors you choose to open for those who align with your growth and well-being.

This is where the power of compassion comes in. Genuine compassion doesn't mean excusing toxic behaviour or allowing people to use and mistreat you. It means understanding that unhealed people hurt others, and rather than absorbing their pain as your own, you learn to observe it with a sense of detachment and grace.

Seeing through a healed lens doesn't mean you won't encounter pain or disappointment. It means you won't let it define you. You'll stop carrying burdens that were never yours to begin with. You'll stop bending over backward for people who refuse to meet you halfway. You'll learn that closure isn't always about getting an apology—it's about permitting yourself to move forward, knowing that your peace is more valuable than validation.

When you heal, you'll walk lighter, love deeper, and understand that you are whole, no matter who failed to see it.

Some People Are Just Mean—And That's Okay

Healing expands our empathy, but it doesn't mean we must rationalize or excuse bad behaviour. The truth is, some people aren't acting out of unprocessed trauma or unresolved wounds—they're just mean. Narcissistic, manipulative, self-serving individuals exist, and unlike those who lash out unintentionally due to pain, these people are fully aware of their actions. They make conscious choices to deceive, control, and harm others, often with little remorse. And here's the kicker: it's not our job to fix them.

when you heal, you realize that your energy is sacred, your peace is priceless, and not everyone is worthy of a front-row seat in your life.

One of the most liberating realizations in the healing journey is understanding that not every person is struggling beneath the weight of unseen burdens. Some people know what they're doing. They manipulate kindness, weaponize emotions, and exploit vulnerabilities—not because they are broken, but because they wish to break others because it serves them. They feed off drama, power, or control, and their behaviour isn't something you can change with more love, understanding, or patience.

And here's where true growth comes in: Accept that these people exist—and choose not to engage. You don't need to fight every battle, prove your worth, or convince them to be better or treat you better, for that matter. You simply walk away. Because when you heal, you realize that your energy is sacred, your peace is priceless, and not everyone is worthy of a front-row seat in your life.

Healing Isn't Linear, and Neither Is Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood aspects of healing. It's not about excusing the harm done to you or offering someone a free pass to continue their behaviour. It's about reclaiming your energy, your peace, and your power. Holding onto resentment is like carrying a weight that only burdens you while the person who hurt you moves on, often unaware—or worse, indifferent—to the damage they've caused.

Healing isn't a straight path, and neither is forgiveness. Some wounds take longer to release than others, and that's okay. There will be days when you feel lighter as if the past no longer has a grip on you, and there will be days when the pain resurfaces unexpectedly. This doesn't mean you haven't healed; it means you're human. Healing is a process; part of that process is understanding that you don't need an apology, explanation, or validation from the person who wronged you. Waiting for them to acknowledge their actions keeps you tethered to toxicity, but forgiveness severs that tie.

Forgiveness isn't about them—it's about you. It's about freeing your spirit from the emotional chains of anger, bitterness, and resentment. When you refuse to forgive, those emotions take root in your soul, manifesting as anxiety, stress, and even physical ailments. Your body holds onto what your soul refuses to release.

So take your time. Feel the emotions, process them, and release them at your own pace. Forgiveness is a liberating journey. It allows you to leave the past and step into the present unshackled by wounds that once bound you.

Alright, it's Your Turn

As you've healed, have you noticed a shift in how you see those who have hurt you? Do you find forgiving easier, or is it still a struggle? Let's discuss this in the comments.

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