I have been thinking about friendships lately and how important it is to have a solid group of people who roll with you through the ebbs and flows of life.
I have also pondered how freely we use the word "friend," and I have been challenging myself to be careful with whom I give the honourable title.
The reason is that not everyone you converse with or spend time with is your friend.
Not everyone in your life is FOR you, and the sooner we recognize that, the less complicated our circles will be, and the more quality people we will have to enrich our lives. You may ask what it means to have someone who is FOR you, so let me break it down. The people who are FOR you are the ones who recognize your silence as pain, frustration, contemplation or worry. They don't tell you, you're moody, miserable, absent or uncommunicative. They hear your silence loud and clear and can translate it into the words you cannot speak. Those are the individuals who are FOR you.
We know everyone comes into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. For me, some were there to teach me a lesson and allow for growth while others were short-lived and faded without another thought.
Then my lifetime people, well, we're still on the journey. I especially embrace the ones who have come full circle. We lost touch as we fumbled through our 20's and 30's, and BAM! we're back as if no time has passed.
In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I can't be anything but Thankful for my friends. I have a solid group of men and women in my circle who support me, call me out when I'm wrong and have the uncanny knack of translating my silence.
They are my comrades, my tribe, my kin. They allow me to live and be my authentic self. They make me laugh, most times at the dumbest things, and I love each of them. I couldn't ask for a more fantastic group of individuals to be part of my life.
We have rallied around each other, chastised one another, laughed until we cried and cried until we laughed. We have prayed, sang and fought over the lyrics and enjoyed every moment in between. You give me perspective and balance, and I am THANKFUL and appreciate every one of you.
From now on, I hope we use the word "friend" cautiously and only give it to those worthy of the title, a word of caution; mutual social media followers are strangers, not friends, lol.
I also hope you have a solid group as I do. Call them what you like: your tribe, your people, your crew. No matter the name, ensure they know how much they mean to you. Love them, virtually hug them, appreciate them and keep them close.
Note: Those of you who haven't introduced me to a suitable man, although I don't question our friendship, I am carefully reviewing the perks of your membership card, lol.
Be Inspired!
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